What Are You Afraid Of?
What it feels like to ride a bike for the first time.
We can’t lay claim to this video. It belongs to Kathryn Dangers, but I want to share it with you here, because it is one of the most inspiring videos I have seen in a while. (enjoy)
Here are the top three fears I have noticed;
1. Fear of failure
2. Fear of Success
3. Fear of being found out (a feeling of unworthiness)
Let’s talk about the fear of failure first. It is the most common. Doesn’t it come down to the fear that if you put yourself out there and really follow the the thing you love – follow your dreams, and fail, what will you have to hope for? A daunting thought. No wonder we procrastinate. My suggestion is to start small. Move your dream a little closer each day – even if you are only studying and thinking about it. Keep it top of mind, and your subconscious will see the opportunities as they present themselves and open the doors. These doors – these possibilities are what everyone who wants to do anything creative or extraordinary has to get through.
Fear of success. Sounds strange. Why would anyone be afraid to succeed? Because you know deep down that it changes things. It will change the way people think about you. It can cause conflict, you may lose friends, or you may have to make difficult personal decisions, because with success comes responsibility. Believe it or not, success can be uncomfortable. And once achieved, comes that “Now what?” moment. For those of us who take comfort in our routines – the pattern of our lives can be disrupted forever with the brake through that sometimes comes with success. This may be why we find ourselves sometimes self sabotaging our own efforts. If you catch yourself doing this…Stop and think. What am I afraid of? The best way to do something new or different is to place a higher priority on it. Attack it first, clear the time in your life for this project. Ask yourself WHY do I really want this? Is whatever I have to go through, or whatever the consequences may be… will it be worth doing? If so, power through.
And finally, addressing that feeling of “I’m not worthy”… We all run that private script in our heads. Even the most successful among us do it. But success and happiness are meant to go together like peanut butter and jelly. It is OK to take a chance and be rewarded for your effort. Because most people never even try. Congratulate yourself on your attempt – even if it doesn’t work out exactly to plan. But when it does – celebrate it! And set another goal. Winning is as much a part of the process of learning as anything. The example of falling off your bike repeatedly in the process of learning is cliché, but remember flying down the hill with confidence once you mastered that new skill? That is what I am talking about! Enjoy the ride.
















